I've got a problem I need to bitch about [v4]

Princess of Lumas wrote:

jokool wrote:

Princess of Lumas wrote:

jokool wrote:...I really wish hat I was either more mature, 17 still, or did things differently when I was younger so I'd be more prepared for adulthood...

As I am 17, do you mine  sharing what you'd do differently? No pressure.

Well, one of the things I'd do differently is try to be more social and interact with more people irl, especially ones who were my age. I think one of the problems I have now is that I don't really know how to act around people and I tent to be goofy and immature when I do or say anything. That, or I'm a nervous wreck...

But, I think one of the reasons why I never really interacted with people is because I've been at home most of my life (I was homeschooled after all), and the only times I really got to see people was at church occasionally, or when we went to the store. I doubt any of you guys had/have this problem.

I meant to type this out later on a computer but all I have is my Ipod now. So here goes.

Jokool, I was homeschooled my entire life until high school, no less in a strict, conservative family. I know exactly what you mean, I often talk about sexual topics or humor in group settings. There are other personal issues of mine that contribute to that characteristic of mine, but I'm pretty sure I have an idea of what you're talking about. At my school, I only have one friend and I'm content with that despite the fact I am viewed very low by the rest of my student body. In hindsight, I think homeschooling actually shelters you from a lot of shit that people shouldn't need to experience at such a turbulent time of their life and I learned far more content wise when I  homeschooled anyway.

But I want to help you...I act dratically different online, in public,  at school, basically every location I go to, you'd see a different version of me. Do you do the same thing?

What has helped me is not assuming the worst. I like to think of every possibility that could occur from what Im saying or doing and that often hurts me. Trying to stay "in true moment" often aids me as well. While it is true people's perception of you is important to a degree, I'd suggest thinking along the lines of that if a person doesn't like/appreciate you, you probably wouldn't have a good friendship with them anyway. Friendship/good relationships of any form are also not about agreeing 100% with a person because you're inevitably going to have your differences with people and the key is to figure out how to compromise and coexist with those differences. Also, many people are probably just as nervous when they meet someone new and are also probably self conscious about how they appear too. So when you talk to someone and feel nervous, it's likely they're experiencing what you are, even f they don't show it.

I don't even feel like I helped but maybe you'll feel the tiniest bit better knowing that someone else has had a similar experience to you at least. Good luck my friend

Princess of Lumas wrote:I dislike it when I am waiting for someone to pick me up and prior to them picking me up I say to them, "If I don't say otherwise, pick me up at 3:00 PM". I proceed to wait only to learn they thought I would let them know when I wanted to be picked up.


Attempting to communicate with humans is annoying.  
But the irony is, I'm unfortunately one of them

zero 2 wrote:I'm 17 going on 18, BTW.
also, welcome back luma! you won't remember me, as I was nothing on the original pit stop and I was only a somebody here after you left last.
but yeah, I was an active user for 2 years.